BODY POSITIVITY

As any regular 20-year old, body issues and selfconfidence are some of the “hot topics” in my life. Your twenties are definitely the years of finding and accepting yourself. Of course it’s naive to believe that you could fully do that in just your twenties, since you are truly constantly changing. I do, however, believe that the acceptance of your body the way it is and at any weight or shape, is something important to do as early as possible. Obviously it is not just that easy, and for me it has definitely been a journey.

It’s a journey that’s far from over, and on that journey I am constantly going through major breakthroughs followed by setbacks. It’s a constant back and forth. A merry go round. That’s why I don’t want to call this post “my journey to bodypositivity/bodyconfidence” or anything like that. I feel like a headline like that would indicate that I am somehow at the end of that journey, or at least majorly on the “right side” of things. That’s not the case. I am, however, working very hard at being comfortable in my own skin, and especially loving my body at any weight. My weight fluctuates a lot, so I feel like it’s important for me to learn to love my body no matter how it looks on a particular day.

For the past few weeks I have been happier in my body. I’ve enjoyed my body the past few months, but the past weeks I’ve also liked the look of it. I’ve taken full body pictures in the mirror and not hated them or been disgusted by them. I’ve even posted a bit of bodypositivity on Instagram, and my plan is to do more of that probably on Sunday (@klaraemiliaa). I am very happy with the progress that has happened in my  mind, and I am truly hoping that this selflove and bodypositivity only continues to grow from here, and develops to something constant in my life. Loving yourself is truly what matters in life. Your body is your home, you are the person you spend your whole life with. As long as you are alive, your body is doing a good job. Your body is a great body. What part of your selfacceptance journey are you on?

What’s wrong with being confident?

I’m loving Demi Lovato’s lyrics lately. I mean they’ve always been pretty good and she covers great topics, but this bodypositivity lately has been awesome. I have no idea what Cool for the summer is really about, it might be about experimenting with your sexuality, I’m not sure. However, the lyric “don’t be scared cause I’m your bodytype” has really stuck with me. I think that could be about bodypositivity, or at least it’s probably interpreted in that way. 

I’ve been thinking about just that. Men are often scared or ashamed to admit that they like girls that are, for example, a little bigger. I am not what you traditionally call a big girl, but I am bigger than the thin girls. I was so shocked when my last boyfriend loved me and was so public and open about it, and particularly about being attracted to me and finding me sexy etc. Even afterwards he has never said anything bad, even if he is with a  very thin girl now… I am thankful for that. 

That might sound kind of silly. Shouldn’t it be obvious that he doesn’t say anything bad? Yes it should. I don’t think it is though. As I said, some people are ashamed of their preferences, even when it’s something this normal. I feel like more guys should be reminded that it shouldn’t matter what they find attractive. If you like big girls, fine. If you like small girls, that’s fine too. Why should it matter to other people? If a big girl is not your preference, don’t get involved with one. But don’t hate on other people’s preferences. And guys, don’t be so scared seriously. Just do whatever you want. xxx

Now obviously someone could say you shouldn’t always just look at the size, look at other things before that (personality and such). I completely agree but that would have to be a whole other post. 

Feel yourself

Today has not been a very productive day. Whenever I feel I haven’t been productive I also feel bad about myself in other ways. “I’ve just been at home, I’m lazy, I’m inactive, I’m ugly” etc. Sounds ridiculous but sometimes you just have those kinds of days.  I found one thing that helps that sounds kind of silly, and that is looking at semirecent selfies of myself. I usually only take pictures of myself when I look good, which sounds shallow, but is very good on days like these. I can look back on them and think “this is me, this is what I look like too, I’m not that ugly and terrible”. I think I sound so random but this is just a tip that helps me a lot. Hope you had/have a lovely day and that you love yourself :). X